Today I return home from a five week journey that has taught
me a lot about the world, but also a lot
about myself. I’ve thrown around the term “Grand Tour” with this trip quite a
bit, but I honestly think that phrase is perhaps the best representation of
what the past five weeks have been. I traveled, chiefly in Italy, to learn
about culture and art, and did a great deal of growing up along the way. I’ve
been collecting this list of “Things I’ve Learned” while I’ve been here, and I
hope you enjoy my final thoughts on this magnificent journey.
1. Live in the moment.
This has been perhaps the most challenging thing for me to
learn, but it is also the most important. As an incredibly busy person, I spend
a great amount of time looking ahead to the next thing. This trip taught me to
take time to really enjoy every bit of my day. Now I can honestly say that I
take time to observe and just be present in every experience. It’s definitely
not easy— it’s an active decision to enjoy every second, but it sure makes life
a hell of a lot more fun.
2. Independence.
I certainly have become a lot more independent during my
time here. I feel stronger, and capable of really doing anything I set my mind
to.
3. Going it alone does not mean you are lonely.
I spent a large amount of time doing things by myself on
this trip, really getting to spend time with me. A year ago, I’m not sure I
would have been able to do that and remain happy. But doing things by myself
and for myself made my trip so much more valuable because I was able to do and
see the things that I wanted to. Don’t get me wrong—I certainly was very social
while abroad. I just value the time that I had to myself so much. I was able to
take as long as I want just absorbing the art and culture around me, on no
one’s schedule but my own. This is something that I hope to continue to carry
with me. I am comfortable spending time with myself.
4. Old mini coopers are tiny.
5. Not all gelato is created equal.
6. You are allowed to miss the people you’ve left behind.
I went on this trip thinking that I wouldn’t get homesick at
all— it was only 5 weeks. Needless to say by the end of week 3 I was starting
to miss my friends and family. But that’s okay. It’s not a reflection on the
time that I spent abroad; rather it shows me that I have an incredible network
of people in my life. I had the time of my life in Europe, but I’m happy to be
returning home.
7. Trains are often hot and smelly. But still seem more
efficient than cars.
8. There are genuinely good people in the world.
9. Be proud to be American. But learn to be a citizen of the
world.
I spent a good deal of time learning about Italian culture,
and trying to hide the fact that I’m from the U.S. I then asked myself why I
was doing that. Why was I trying to hide a crucial part of who I am? I felt
embarrassed, like somehow I was worth less than the people from other European
countries, worth less than the Italians or the Brits. But I’m not. I’m wearing
my American flag shirt on this flight home because I am decidedly the counter
example to the false stereotype that Europeans have. I am well traveled, well
read and intelligent. I am polite, and carry myself with grace and courtesy. I
also believe that there are truly remarkable things about the U.S. I am proud
of my country.
This trip has taught me to celebrate my home as I learn
about other cultures. I have learned more about what makes me “American” by
studying in Italy. I think that it’s important that American students become
members of the global community, but I refuse to be embarrassed of where I am
from.
10. There’s nothing quite like being among your family.
11. Children act in the same way no matter where they’re
from.
12. Patience.
13. Jack Russell terriers can open doors.
14. McDonalds is really expensive in Italy.
15. Messy braids are the perfect way to dry your hair.
16. Forgive yourself for silly mistakes. They usually don’t
matter, and ultimately you’ve learned something.
17. The best banana daiquiri in the world is at L’Art Bar in
Florence.
18. First impressions are often wrong.
19. Walk if you can. You’ll see more of the world that way.
20. I am young. I have my whole life to tour the world. Take
time rather than trying to fit it all in.
21. Love yourself and everything else will follow.
Ok, so I lied. This is the most important lesson.
My time in Florence, Saint Albans and London was remarkable.
I feel that I have grown so much since I’ve been abroad, but I also feel that
my mind has expanded a great deal. I feel more inquisitive now than ever, and
there are so many books that I want to read and new places I want to go in my
lifetime. I know that I have time to do those things, and I know that I will
travel abroad again.
This is the happiest I have been in several years. I don’t
think it was anything in the water of Italy or the Ale of England that helped
me find my happiness, but I think its got a lot to do with what I’ve written
above.
So if you’re thinking about traveling— even if it’s within
your own back yard— Go. You will discover amazing things about this world, but
more importantly, you will discover the amazing things about yourself.